Three weeks after my BFN I finally had my what the heck is our problem appointment. Before going I had a feeling I knew what the doctor was going to say but we went into the meeting with positive thoughts.
We walked in and the RE went over the results of our 3rd IVF cycle. We did the EPP protocol, got 10 eggs, 8 mature, but only 2 fertilized normally which is much lower then the average. So my RE gave us 2 options.
He laid it all out, the options are to cycle again using the EPP again because it had the best results so far, or the other option of egg donation. Even though I knew this was coming it hurt. I cried and got upset. Before the appointment my husband said he’d do whatever I wanted to do but I don’t think he really understood egg donation. After the meeting he understood and he’s not sure he can do it.
I get it, I do. 12 months ago when the idea was brought up (but not suggested) I basically told the RE he was crazy there was no way. Fast forward 12 months, my AMH is .26, I’ve had 2 more failed IVF cycles, and the possibly of egg donation seems like a good option. The problem? A cycle costs $15,000 for 6 frozen eggs. That’s not even fresh folks, that’s frozen. Yes it’s probably $5,000-$10,000 cheaper then fresh but it sucks. I’m not sure we can swing it.
Plus, I thought I was ok with the idea but I didn’t sleep at all last night, night did my husband. We both tossed and turned all night. It was awful. We have a lot to think about. Insurance will pay for about half of another IVF cycle which only has maybe a 25% chance of working but will be about $7,000 which is totally doable. But a donor egg cycle has a 60% chance of working but is $15,000 and it will be hard to do. Plus my husband isn’t on board. He needs to think about it which I totally understand.
So right now we’re at a standstill. We don’t know what we’re going to do but I know we aren’t giving up. I can’t. I have to do whatever I can to try and have a child even if it isn’t biological. In fact, I signed up for an egg donor site and looked at some donors. It scared me, I won’t lie. I’m not sure mentally or monetarily I can do this but we have to figure out what it is we’re going to do.
So my question is, have you used donor eggs? Fresh or frozen? Were you successful? How many transfers?